Boundaries are values-based invisible lines that we create for ourselves and our relationships. Boundaries teach people what to expect from us and what we expect from them in the context of the relationship. Knowing, communicating, and respecting boundaries is key to building and maintaining a strong, mutually beneficial relationship with others.
Whether in a new relationship or continuing one, be clear with your partner about what you like and what you don’t like. Determine their boundaries by having an open discussion before a relationship is taken to the next level. This builds not only communication but also respect within the relationship.
When communicating, ask questions when you do not understand or are unclear on something discussed. Be sure to check in with any questions or concerns to make sure that a partner feels comfortable.
Respect each other’s boundaries by not trying to convince the person to try an activity that violates one of his or her boundaries. Expect your partner to return that respect and communicate with each other when you feel your boundaries were not respected.
Each relationship will be different, and boundaries can change from partner to partner. Feel free to adjust your boundaries, whether that means trying something you previously refused or eliminating an activity you engaged in with a previous partner.
Knowing each other’s boundaries and communicating appropriately will pave the way for an enjoyable experience for all involved.
Need assistance working on relationship boundaries? Contact the Community Counseling Program for individual, couples, or family counseling services, or Marine Corps Family Team Building to sign up for a Real Relationships course in addition, the Family Advocacy Progam offers healthy relationship classes and workshops.